Hide and Go Seek Blog

Deep down inside I know without a doubt that I am a superhero, complete with superhero powers. You probably would have no idea if I hadn’t of told you. But, it’s true. They call me the Crimson Bull.
This is my insight into what every man wants.
The heart of every man in wild. It beats at its own rhythm. No man was every made to be chained to a desk. No man was made to not live by the mountains, near a lake. No man was ever made to stop, drop and roll.

#1 – Every man needs to be valued. That’s why everyman aspires to be a superhero. They want to be valued by society. They want to be wanted. They desire intimate relationships with people who develop a necessity of him. They want to be the best at something, most of the time everything. They grunt loud, play hard and bleed a lot, just to be valued as a player in society.
Men find value through the love of a good woman, teaching their boys to hit baseballs with bats, ride a bicycle and tune a Harley and showing their girls how they should be treated by any other man.
- A man who is suffering in this area will begin to irrationally find ways to be valued. This may include purchasing season tickets to the local professional sports team, joining the men’s hockey league at age 50 with no former playing experience, or even more dangerously getting into pornography or even adultery were fantasy is the only source of value.
- Possible Remedies – Let a man know he’s valued. Don’t be afraid to show them you like them, or even love them.

#2 – Every man needs to be noticed. Super-heroes rarely hide their supremacy. They can’t because of the great contrast between them and the normal Joe on the street. Ever notice the great lengths men will go to gain the attention of another human being, and usually a mass crowd of other human beings all at once. They paint their chests at the football game. They honk their horns in traffic. They yell at the television. It’s not unlike a man to desire the centre of attention. They love loud. If I man likes a woman, she will know, and know often. Unapologetically.
- A man suffering in this area will begin to find other ways to get the attention of other people. These could take the form of problem risk taking behaviors such as model railroading, taking up a paper route or getting a pet bird. Unfortunately, the danger is that without the proper recognition in a man’s life, he will slowly drift to indifference, unable to perform the tasks that gave him value.
- Possible Remedies – take notice of his value. Let him know you notice.

#3 Every man needs to be fearless. Superheroes are never afraid. They have no reason to be. Nothing stops them from doing what they need to do. For men, nothing stops them from doing what they need to do. Whether it’s telling that girl how they feel, or making that tackle in the forth quarter to win the game, nothing stops them from accomplishing the task. No fear, not out of macho egotism, but out of a need to be noticed for their value. They need people to know they can be counted on. They need to conquer the mountain. For some the mountain is a job promotion. For other’s its just one single date. Men will go after these things that they want, without realizing any inability to conquer them.
- A man suffering in this area will begin to simply stop going after those things that they truly want. Billy Graham is a man who goes after the things that he wants, the things that God calls him to. Men who stop, simply stop. They stop functioning as fully man. They stopping showing their feelings. They stop asking.
- Possible remedies – Just be understanding.

, Chad